(originally published in The Outreach Connection in June 2004)
The hot new spot in my downtown
neighborhood is called Laide, an externally unprepossessing space housing a
cool restaurant/bar. It’s a good place to hang out, with quality food and
pleasant if slightly imprecise service. Laide’s design gimmick, if that’s the
way to look at it, is built around sex – some erotic statues by the entrance,
and vintage porn flicks projected on the wall (the night I was there, some time
after midnight, they dumped the old stuff and started playing the Paris Hilton
tape). From what I could see, very few if any of the patrons were actually
watching the porn, and people who talk about having been to Laide generally
don’t mention it. The badge of cool, I think, demands exactly that – to place
oneself in a position to be (if we were nerds) titillated or (if we were
prudes) offended, and then barely even to notice.
Town Bloody Hall
Laide would seem to me a perfectly
plausible location for a first or second date, although the standard dating
manuals, with their strategic relationship-building flowcharts and complex
algorithms for calculating do’s and don’ts, would surely advise against it.
Long insulated from dating considerations, I am genuinely uncertain how much of
the prevailing wisdom in these matters has any real-life application, at least
in a liberal, seen-it-all, Lavalife-friendly Western city. Certainly I’m not
naive enough to think that everything between men and women has been equalized,
although it seems likely to me that at least part of the remaining disparity
might be subject to mutual agreement – albeit one in which it’s unclear how
much of that agreement is lightly coerced by historical, cultural and
biological determinism.
I recently rewatched the classic
documentary Town Bloody Hall, which
records a memorable, headline-forming debate on feminism that took place at New
York’s town hall in 1971. Norman Mailer moderated a panel including Germaine
Greer and Diana Trilling (with Susan Sontag, Betty Friedan and others in the
audience). It’s still a rollickingly entertaining spectacle, although much of
the way in which it’s entertaining (often involving Mailer being heckled, or
blasting out outrageous statements) comes at the cost of a considered
exploration of the issues.
The film transmits a distinct sense of
accelerating female empowerment, but one grappling with multiple indices of
oppression and belittlement. There’s a strong feeling of discomfort with the
easy slogans of the liberation movement – Jacqueline Ceballos, at the time the
president of the National Organization for Women, opens the debate with a
laundry list of demands and goals, and then is never heard from again. Greer
strikes more of a chord, not just for the audience but for the ages, with her
vision of a more flexible, pluralistic movement. Mailer seems for the most part
to be in tune with this, but occasionally shows severe limitations – such as in
his claim that if a man doesn’t occasionally hit a woman, she’s caused him violence by denying him a necessary
outlet. The film is very much a record of a specific time and place – such an
event now would probably be an academic, sparsely attended yawner. This seems
to me a case of at least one step forward.
The Stepford Wives
But also one back, because any debate on
sexual politics nowadays is likely to be far more superficial than that in Town Bloody Hall. Take for example the
shower of opinion pieces that accompanied Frank Oz’s remake of The Stepford Wives. The plot here is
straightforward – a young couple and their kids, fleeing a career meltdown,
move to a gated Connecticut community where all is beautiful and the wives are
serenely compliant, to the point of idiocy. It turns out they’re all programmed
to fulfill their nerdy husbands’ fantasies, and the heroine (played here by
Nicole Kidman) is next in line for the treatment.
I can no longer recall much about the 1975
original, but I believe the tone was of a composed, precise chilliness. I
searched the web for commentary on how that film might reflect the feminist
waves of its time, but without finding much. Here’s one review I came across: “Little more than a knockoff of Invasion of the Body Snatchers, The
Stepford Wives makes one tragic mistake: The women in town actually seem
more interesting after their
transformation than before it, when they come across as whiny and petulant, and
little else.”
Which, obviously written by a male, might
seem to unwittingly endorse the preconceptions that drive the Stepford males’
project. Anyway, the new film is an odd creation. Directed by Frank Oz and
written by Paul Rudnick, it’s for the most part a comedy, partly a send-up of
the original, partly a satire on...well, I’m not exactly sure what, and there
lies the problem. The film doesn’t reinvent the concept of the Stepford wives
in a modern idiom – as in the original, they’re all frilly dresses and Martha
Stewart values. The men, hanging out in the Stepford Men’s Association, wear
club jackets, smoke big cigars, and engage in radio-controlled car duels. I
seriously question how relevant this will seem to Toronto audiences.
Stepford Husbands
The Stepford men are a narrow social
sub-group – geeks who happened to be married to high-performing women and got
tired of living in their shadows. This seems to be more about power than about
sex – an interpretation supported by the film’s throwing in a gay couple and
even a former champion terrier, transformed now into a mechanical echo of its
former self. But this plight (a mere blip on the vast spectrum of power
inequalities) doesn’t seem like a very compelling basis for social commentary.
In the end, somewhat remarkably, the film comes up with a plot twist (not in
the original) that goes some way to explaining the movie and justifying it on
its own terms. But only at the cost of rendering everything we’ve seen the
result of a single warped psyche, thus making it easy to write it all off.
I don’t want to dump on the film completely
– in fact I might even give it a mild thumbs up for the wacky trilogy of
Kidman, Bette Midler and Roger Bart, who – mocking everything around them - share the film’s most engaging scenes. At
93 minutes, it’s a colourful, zippy concoction. But on top of everything I
mentioned, the ending (apparently extensively reshot) is clumsy and poorly
handled, leaving a distinctly flat taste in your mouth. It’s meant to be an
affirmation of feminine individuality, but I don’t think too many female
viewers will feel a bloodrush of identification.
Despite all this, the fact that the film
looks as if it ought to harbour some
kind of meaning gives it some currency as a cultural focal point – and there
would certainly have been even more attention paid to it if it hadn’t been
generally poorly received. But this only raises questions about those who
determine our cultural focal points. I doubt the film could sustain too many
conversations at Laide, even if it were projected right on the wall.